A way to survive the empty nest and a "cracked "relationship with a fun daily challenge of new experiences, reflections, sources, and some biblical guidance. I hope this blog which offers a fun journey to survive by trying something new, either vicariously or by doing, will result in a survival tool kit to replace the past familiar doing, giving, and/or incorporating the interest of your child or your long gone love interest, with some new self interest(s).
Better to have a few
close friendsthan a sea of others.
In Maslow's theory, establishing deep satisfying interpersonal relationships
with a few people is a trait of a self- actualized person. There
is something special when you have afriendfrom the past , who can fit right back into the present and continueinto the future.I have that in my friend Kellie from Columbus, Ohio.
On Day 42-43 at Purduewhen my son indicated that he wanted to end our
day on Saturday to make friends, I decided to head back to Pittsburgh. Half way
to Pittsburgh, (3.5 hours from Purdue) is Columbus Ohio. I lived there in the 90’s
for 3 years. This was an unexpected change of plans and I had connected with my
friend Kellie to visit on Sunday. When I called her about a change she text-ed, “you can come
Saturday night, Sunday, next week, Halloween…Presidents’ day…Whenever! You are
always welcome! Can’t wait to
see you! ”
2014 -Notice the set up with ice!
My friend was so welcoming and such a ball of energy. We
just picked up where we left off 16 years ago even though we had not seen each
other in 10 years. She and her husband were havingaparty. When I arrived she ran across
the room and their friends each came up to me to introduce themselves.
She had a room ready, a glass of ice and water stocked in the bathroom, a
white fluffy robe on the bed, and all the toiletries that I needed. It was better than a 5 star hotel!
The positive energy was very high but that is how it is with
Kellie and when we are together the energy is explosive. We even
fished (see Day 46).
So seeking out a friends from the past will stay in the survival
And since I, the Lord
and Teacher have washed your feet, you ought to wash each other’s feet. I have
given you an example to follow. Do as I have done to you. (John 13:13,14)
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in times of need (Proverbs 17:17)